TRUST CAN HELP YOU FLY FREELY!

The foundation of every relationship is TRUST. It’s the most common word used for connections or bonds as a basic requirement; hard to build, easy to lose.

When we talk about trust, it does not only mean trusting another but trusting yourself first. It’s a process. There’s a saying by Mark Twain, “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval”. Allow yourself to trust yourself before trusting anybody else, because it’s the only way to honestly trust others. It takes time; you can’t suddenly wake up one day and trust everything or everybody? NO! That’s not going to happen, until you go and grow through it.

However, clarity and communication can be a good way to commence. What happens when you communicate? You will get to know about their perspectives. Because when you communicate, you share and discuss. Everyone is unique, has their own approach to an aspect and handling a situation; sometimes we learn, sometimes we gain a different viewpoint and insight into the person.

Knowing and finding about clarity, you have to be honest to each other. Transparency will help you to build a deeper rooted connection. The connection of growth, understanding, honesty, loyalty, love and care; who wouldn’t or doesn’t want that?

Another thing that goes hand in hand with trust is the space you provide to each other; PRIVACY. Growing together doesn’t mean you have to helicopter each other. Though, caring is one thing and being a bumble bee is just another whole dimension. Let them be in their own space. Do not make them feel suffocated. Every human being is allowed to be who they are; it’s a matter of choice.

As both these aspects go together, let’s illustrate it in this way: do you check your partner’s phone? If your answer is yes or sometimes, then ask yourself why? Were you insecure? Or you don’t trust them? When you don’t trust somebody, you cannot be with them.

Privacy comes after trust. If you trust your partner, you don’t have to check his/her phone. You just have to ask and have a conversation about each other’s feelings. Speak! Be together, independently.

Moreover, falling into the doubt trap is easy but entangles you deeper. Balance out your relationship. Do not blindly trust or do not assume and jump to conclusions. Do it together. If it takes two to quarrel, it also takes two to listen, accept and resolve.

- Krupa Shah